How To Spot A Friend Who Is Not A Friend

Falsehood has wings, and flies. The truth crawls behind it, so that when people realize the deception, it is already too late.

“Miguel de Cervantes”

Often, it is very difficult to tell the difference between a real bag and a counterfeit bag.

They have the same shape, the same color, the same stitching, the same measurements, and the impostors have even taken care to reproduce the brand’s label. But, over time, some small details do not deceive.

Oddly enough, the counterfeit bag rubs off when wet or exposed to the sun. The interior compartments where you store your most intimate belongings, are unstitched.

Even the handle you use to carry your bag is not as comfortable as it was at the beginning.

What to do in the face of such a situation? Despite everything, you continue to wear this bag, because it is still “pretty” and you cannot get rid of it.

However, you will no longer wear it for special occasions.

It is the same with false friends.

They seem perfect for you, nonetheless, without you knowing for some odd reason, they bother you and cause you problems, something you don’t expect from someone you hang out with to have interesting conversations. . Over time, they rub off .

When we no longer fight over nonsense or when no tension sets in after specific reactions, that’s when the relationship starts to get weird.

It only happens to you with this person, and you’ve noticed it for quite a while. His behavior leaves much to be desired, but you refuse to open your eyes because no one likes losing a friend.

In this article, we are going to give you some tips to help you recognize a counterfeit, in its “great friend” version.

Warning ! These famous leads are very subtle, and even if they don’t matter to you, take them into account before you get overwhelmed by your feelings.

This is what happens every time an item breaks after falling from a counterfeit bag with poor stitching.

You knew that sooner or later such a thing was going to happen, but you preferred to give the benefit of the doubt.

However, there is no doubt. If your friend behaves this way, put the bag in the storage room and his number in the “junk” contacts list. 

Here are our tracks

– Your friend seems to like to talk with you, yes, but always to criticize others. He spares no one, and spits real poison.

– He does not speak of ideas, but of people. He constantly talks about himself. You can’t strike up a conversation with him without it drifting into a detailed analysis of other people’s lives in comparison to his own.

His feelings are not sincere, and that’s why you don’t understand him. Finally, like a lion, he ends up being aggressive because he feels “misunderstood”. It’s exhausting.

– It doesn’t really matter what happens to you. He says he understands you, but that’s not what you need. All you want to do is talk and be heard.

– He tells you to be positive and to be optimistic, but he himself does not.

In other words, not wanting to admit that something has hurt him, he will pretend to be stronger than he is and hide behind a shell, which is destroyed as soon as you make him laugh.

He loses control of himself, he’s tired, and he doesn’t like the place you took him and bores him. He does everything to show you that for him, you are a useless friend.

– He keeps telling you things like  “mine was better”, “I’ve done this before you”, “I too have known that”, etc…

His maturity level is 100, and yours is 0. He says he wants to help you, but he’s not doing anything about it.

He places too much importance on social relationships, he always wants to help everyone, but when he does, he feels saturated. He can’t say no, and when the going gets tough, he seems to be staggering.

–  When you are not in good spirits, he tells you that you are full of qualities.

He enjoys spending time with you… as long as you are in pain.

He keeps repeating demotivating phrases like “that kind of thing always ends badly” or “be realistic”. He’s there when you’re feeling low, but never when you’re fine.

– He doesn’t have a sense of humor, or at least not the same as you. When you tell a joke, he always says “I don’t find that funny”. Suddenly, you don’t know what to talk about anymore.

– He questions you about your other friends or your family, and it seems that he does so with the intention of criticizing them. He is insistent and likes to know details that do not concern him.

– He always tells the same stories, as if he no longer knew to whom he had already said such and such a thing.

– He said to a lot of people, “I’m telling you, but it’s a secret, so don’t repeat anything to anyone, okay?”

Obviously, this is not the ideal behavior. If he didn’t tell whoever wants to hear them the secrets he is told, he wouldn’t have to ask others if he can trust them and rely on their discretion.

– Debates on politics or religion are impossible. He always draws a murderous sentence to end the discussion, while making you look like a madman who dares to tackle thorny topics.

This article you read in the newspaper outraged you, but its attitude outraged you even more.

– He’s rude. He complains, and he is not very affectionate. He has a hard time saying “I love you” or hugging you.

– He says he is very strong and that he has been through a lot, but that should not be a reason to underestimate the importance or the seriousness of your own concerns.

– You’ve gotten to a point where you can’t take it anymore, and you tell her there’s no way to improve the relationship.

Even so, you still hope that you will eventually find a solution. You feel guilty about telling a loved one about these issues because you don’t like smashing sugar on a friend’s back.

You took too long to react. There are too many things that don’t suit you… ring the alarm bell and BOOM!

I gave you a shambles with my friends and family in an unspeakable way, with surreal lies and hurtful jokes. I didn’t spare you.

Even if you are hurtful, that doesn’t mean you are sad. Now that person will be afraid that others will find him out and that you will not speak to him again.

Faced with such people, you should not waste a single minute of your time. You come out with glory, and he or she with his viper’s tongue.

Take note of it!