I Make The Decisions Necessary For My Happiness
We are constantly making decisions, whether consciously or unconsciously.
Our pace is based on the choices we make, whether about the most mundane things, like the next movie we will see in the cinema, or about more important questions such as our beliefs, our work. , our studies, our companion, etc.
But, to what point are we aware of all these decisions that we make?
We make so many decisions every day that it has become an automatic process for us; we are not aware of the majority of them.
Such a phenomenon occurs because our brain tries to save energy; that’s why when you have to make unimportant daily decisions, it activates intuitively and quickly.
Analysis of this theory explaining how our minds work in decision-making led psychologist Daniel Kahneman to win a Nobel Prize in economics in 2002, following a study of people’s rational and intuitive behavior.
Kahneman has shown that our brain can take two different paths when making a decision; a faster way, the intuitive and emotional way (the one we generally use) and another slower way, the rational way, which supposes an effort.
One way or another, and like it or not, we are responsible for our decisions.
“When you have to make a choice and you don’t, it’s not a choice.”
-William James-
How are we conditioned by our decisions
The results of the decisions we automatically make have a close relationship with our learning, our experiences, the education we have received, the beliefs we have and the mistakes we have made.
We are influenced by an infinite number of factors which determine our conduct.
Do you believe that you are freely choosing the best for you at this time? Most of the choices we make are based on our experience and what we have learned.
When we let ourselves be carried away in a quick and intuitive way, we don’t really take care of what is best for us at the present moment.
In the present moment, we are the product of the decisions that we make.
By adopting certain behaviors rather than others, one obtains a series of experiences and habits which determine who one is at this precise moment, here and now. We cannot shift the responsibility that this implies onto others.
“The great decisions of human life generally have much more to do with instincts and other mysterious unconscious factors than with conscious will and a sense of reasoning.”
-Carl Gustav Jung-
All the decisions you make have consequences
Much of what involves responsibility is realizing and realizing that any decision you make, and don’t take, has consequences.
And there is no point in remaining indifferent to them, since in one way or another they affect us and have an influence on us. We choose to be either the protagonists of what we experience, or simple spectators.
Being aware of the repercussions and consequences of our decisions means taking the reins of our existence. By the time we choose to avoid a decision, we are already making it.
We feel different, we remain at the mercy of circumstances, without taking any type of measure, thus becoming passive in our own life.
We complain about the type of life we lead, our sadness and the misfortunes that happen to us. We use victimization to solve what we don’t understand or to manipulate others, trying to achieve what we want.
We are able to turn our lives into a prison that we have created ourselves.
We can decide to have another type of life, where we set standards, where we choose how we behave in the face of each circumstance, taking care of the circumstances.
Even though fears, insecurity, uncertainty and feelings of guilt invade us. If we can fight all our fantasies, we will get exactly the life we want to lead, without needing to complain.
If what you really want is to be happy, you can’t just sit back and wait for happiness to happen by itself.
Happiness is achieved through the attitude we take in the face of inevitable circumstances that arise in our lives.
This requires effort, since we will have to make decisions that have nothing to do with the habits that feed our deepest fears.
“Everything can be taken from a man, minus the last of human freedoms: the choice of his attitude in a given set of circumstances, to choose his own path. Can we not change the situation? If it is not up to you to change a situation that causes you pain, you will always be able to choose the attitude with which you will face this suffering. ”
-Viktor Frankl-
I choose to be happy: I face my fears, I admit, I accept and I correct my mistakes as much as possible. I understand my insecurity, my needs, my anxiety and my discomfort.
I don’t reject everything that is part of me. I keep myself company in solitude, I free myself from my sadness.
I make decisions so as not to be a victim of circumstances and this is how I achieve peace, allowing me to be able to experience my happiness in peace.
