If You Think It’s Hard To Put An End To It, Try Not To Have To

Sometimes we have a hard time putting an end to what makes our lives bitter.

Many of these behaviors, relationships or thought patterns respond to a need: that of avoiding immediate illness.

We avoid confrontation with reality by taking refuge in pain which turns out to be therapeutic because it becomes habit.

What happens is that this one-time avoidance of pain sometimes leads us to a real disaster.

We extend relationships with people who humiliate us or become trapped in habits that don’t bring us closer to things that would get us what we want in the long run.

Sometimes we have to change ourselves and other times bring a situation to an end. Other times, both at the same time.

Put an end point

We need to be aware of the aspects of our life which are not serving us and which only cause bad times.

To find out if you’ve reached a point of no return in a relationship, consider the following:

• How often does the person do you good and hurt you? Being immersed in an infinite number of justifications and forgiveness towards the other person is not a good sign.
• What are the habits you have in your daily life that prevent you from achieving what you want in the short term and stop your discomfort?
• What are the thought patterns that plunge you into neuroticism? Thinking about what has no solution, having a personal problem at work, continually thinking about what you should be doing etc.

• Devoting time of suffering only to things and people who don’t deserve it, neglects worthy people, and sacrifices your joy all the time.

The price of continuity in suffering is high: destroying your self-esteem.

Sometimes it is inevitable that it will hurt and disappoint us. It is beyond your control, but if you react to this pain or to your abuser, you will make a difference.

If you continue to give him opportunities to belittle you and constantly justify his actions, you will undermine your self-esteem.

Accept that you have lost control, not just over what other people do to you, but also what you do to yourself.

It’s hard to put a stop to it, but imagine you don’t

You may experience many years of toxic habits or relationships that you let consume you that continually boycott your emotional well-being and dreams.

You can continue in this dynamic because you feel unable to live in a way that does not involve this inner evil.

But the time has come to be healthy selfish. In the name of your emotional health, cut what hurts you and renew the decor of your life… Don’t allow yourself to continue boycotting your dignity.

Not putting an end to what hurts us can pay a heavy price: it will one day become traumatic and you will have wasted a lot of time.

If we do not put an end to what constantly wears us out, our inner peace will never find refuge.

Put an end to what you should have stopped from the start. If you don’t, you will suffer irreversible emotional damage that neither you nor anyone else should experience in their life.

Your life deserves a start whenever needed

It is important to give ourselves permission to be able to start over again without fear or guilt.

In life, everything transforms and changes, and it is the way in which we know how to detect these changes that marks the differences between people who are continually renewing themselves and who end up living their past dramas eternally.

You may have many stories in your path, but staying in one longer than necessary hampers the healthy decision to go through other paths.

Stubbornly repeating the same situations over and over again that make you feel bad isn’t just masochism, it’s empowering someone or something they shouldn’t have.