A Resilient Core Is Made Of The Strongest Material There Is

This situation of helplessness is fomented by various factors that are rooted in our culture. We live in a society used to putting labels : this person is intelligent, this one is stupid, this person is maniac, this one is a loser, this person is fragile and this one is the strongest.

This obsession with enlarging each trait of the personality of others and locking them into categories can have harmful consequences on the people concerned, who end up despairing, by no longer believing in their own potential, who isolate themselves in their intimate world. , made up of suffering, tears and despondency. It doesn’t matter if others tell us that we can all be resilient, because resilience is difficult to achieve in solitude.

Why some are more resilient than others

The key to one person being more resilient than another is in our brain’s ability to endure or resist stressful situations. There is, in this context, a determining biological factor that neuroscience has recently studied. In fact, through studies like the one published in the journal Nature, it is possible for us to understand a little more this complex, but fascinating process that is the resilience of our brain.

Here are the main mechanisms that determine our degree of resilience:

• Education: Having received some form of care and tenderness as a child helps us to be more resilient. Having maintained a strong bond with adults who have guided and cared for it optimizes the maturation of a child’s central nervous system. However, growing up in a traumatic environment or in a setting where affection is not very present, causes physiological and biochemical reactions that make us more resistant to stressful situations.
• The genetic factor : it is determining in many cases. Fear, or the ability to surpass oneself in the face of adversity, are two different attitudes in the face of a complex situation, and leave such an imprint on us that it can be passed on to future generations.
• Neurotransmitters: This is another aspect that can be observed in people who have great difficulty in managing their stress or who have had to face a major trauma. Their neurotransmitters, such as endorphin and oxytocin, develop in lesser amounts than in adults who have had a happy childhood. The interaction between these substances and the limbic system or the prefrontal cortex causes these people to feel in a state of permanent vulnerability. This makes them more likely to suffer from depression.

As we can see, three major factors influence whether we feel vulnerable, that we perceive ourselves as weak in a very threatening environment. However, we must at all costs avoid indulging in this belief. Our potential is present and is waiting for only one thing: to come out from the depths of our soul to arise on the surface of our consciousness and allow us to be happier, whatever the circumstances.

The resilient soul knows there is no point in fighting the whole world

Many of us spend our lives fighting against the whole Earth. We resent what our parents did to us as children, for the absences or deficiencies we suffered. We hate people who have been able to abandon us, hurt us, tell us that they love us before leaving us in deafening silence. We hate this complex and competitive reality. In the most serious cases, we hate life itself.

We focus our gaze and energy on an outside world that seems to treat us like a punching bag and leaves us exhausted, exhausted, with no strength to continue. Believe it or not, resilience is a golden armor that empowers us to be more courageous and makes our distorted perception of outer things disappear. Because there is no point in wearing heavy armor if we do not first think about healing what is injured inside our soul.

The strongest armor is our own heart, our own mind. We need to cover them with a thick layer of resilience, self-acceptance, self-esteem and new hope. It is necessary, and although it can be difficult to admit, there are battles that are better to lose. We must leave this past that hurts us in the same box as the one we devote to the old calendars. We must live in the present and raise new hopes from the cracks in our wounded soul.

Little by little, day after day, from these hopes will be born new projects, new people and new routes, which will make us smile again and make all the bad things of the past disappear. Ultimately, we will be able to look at our past without being afraid to feel the fears and anger that we had inside us before. Calm will invade us, because we will finally have accepted that we deserve to be happy.