I Haven’t Changed, I’ve Grown (emotional Maturity)

I have forgiven almost unforgivable mistakes. I tried to replace irreplaceable people, to forget unforgettable people. I did things on  impulse. I have been disappointed with some people, and I have also disappointed someone.

I kissed to protect. I laughed when I couldn’t. I made lifelong friends. I have loved and been loved, but I have also rejected. I have already been loved and I have not known how to love in return.

I screamed and jumped for joy. I have known love and made eternal promises that I often did not keep.

I cried while listening to music and seeing pictures. I called an answering machine to listen to a voice. I fell in love with a smile. I thought I was going to die of so much nostalgia …

I was afraid of losing that special someone (whom I ended up losing), but I survived!

And I’m still alive!

Me, now, I no longer miss life. And you should do the same …

LIVE!

You have to fight with determination, embrace life and live with passion; lose with class and win with daring, for the world belongs to those who dare. Life is far too important to be trivial.

Charles Chaplin

I have not changed, I have learned, and to learn is not to change, it is to grow. I have climbed and descended many of my mountains. I grew up with my demons and faced my shadows.

There should be a manual for learning to live. There are guides for almost everything, but not for mature. All of this is learned as you move forward in life, through a multitude of messages telling you what you should or should not be, and what you should be successful.

Emotional maturity and physical maturity are different. Emotional maturity is not inevitable, but you have to work on it.

The learned path

Unfortunately, very few people come to that climax in their life when they can say “I have been a good walker, I have walked my path”.

To mature is to understand that we are at a stage in our life where we are aware that there is no love that is more powerful than self-love.

This is why it is so important to understand that when you learn, you don’t change, you grow. 

What do emotionally mature people do?

1. They know how to turn the page

If we persist in saying to ourselves that it was better before , it is proof that the emotional wounds are still there, anchored in the present.

These injuries keep us from letting go. They plunge us into panic, and push us into an abyss that our eyes see deeper than what it really is.

This is how emotional vertigo arises, the  one that prevents us from looking to the past to turn the page, to heal our wounds and stop hurting ourselves.

2. They don’t allow their emotional past to ruin their present

Emotionally immature people think that looking to the past is a waste of time, and they feel that they don’t need to cleanse themselves. For them, the important thing is to live in the present moment.

Suddenly, the garbage of the past accumulates, and creates an ever greater mountain of pain.

To get an idea, it is as if an allergic person puts all the dust in their house under a carpet, thinking that this will not affect them.

By refusing to look inward, we do not escape the past, but we allow the negative aspects of our past to manage our present as they please.

Of course, that leaves little room for the positive, besides hurting. Very bad.

That’s why, once you realize your pain, look within to heal your emotional past and take it to the next level.

3. They don’t complain

Either you change or you accept. If you are an emotionally mature person then you will find that by complaining you have got lost in a dark maze.

We are what we think. If you act more and complain less, you are growing emotionally.

4. They allow themselves the luxury of making mistakes

You mature if you realize that making mistakes is a good way to learn. It is not a crime, but another way of understanding his path. Accept your limits and work to improve them.

Mistakes are now opportunities for growth.

5. They have learned to open up emotionally

You mature if you realize that the shells are a thing of the past and only complicate our journey.

This is why it is very important to no longer be afraid of commitment or love, having full confidence in yourself, but also in others.

Emotional maturity allows you to take the reins of your life, to have your own worldview and a high ambition for success.

If you develop your emotional maturity then your life will become a pleasure and not a chore.

Emotional maturity does not evolve while we sleep. It takes effort, practice and patience. Life teaches you nothing, it tells you everything. Your happiness and satisfaction are in your hands.