Sometimes We Give Everything, And Nothing Is Of Value Anymore

We live in a world where habits weigh on us like obligations.

At some point in our life, we realized that what we did out of envy became an imposition.

Usually we are forced and others to do something without being too explicit. In other words, it seems that somehow we are implying that others expect something from us and that we must respond to it.

Anyway, when you give your all, things end up having no value.

The importance of showing our courage

We all have the right to tax ourselves, whether it’s high or low. Each is worth what it is worth: tax yourself, therefore, either as a free person, or as a slave … it depends only on you.

Epictetus

There are people to whom we give everything we have, but despite everything, they never have enough. Anyway, as soon as we stop giving them what they think they need, they immediately accuse us of being selfish, and keep telling us that we don’t care. don’t worry about them.

In this sense, it is important to remember that this type of attitude is not always based on selfishness. 

It can also be due to confusion, or even a lack of skills and dedication.

In other words, we must take into account that the fact of giving everything can turn out to be a burden for the other, since he may have the impression that he will never be able to compensate for it. Sometimes this causes people to get angry, walk away, or not know what to do.

So, whatever happens, the important thing is to act in proportion, and not to give yourself too much to others.  Only we can set our price, because we must be particularly careful when giving ourselves to others.

How to show off

Detach yourself from anyone who doubts you, unite with anyone who appreciates you, free yourself from anyone who hinders you, and love anyone who supports you.

paulo Coelho

If we want to be free, we must get rid of the selfish behaviors to which we may be subjected.

In other words, just because someone we like expects something from us doesn’t mean we have to do it.

First of all, we must understand that sacrifice does not make us better and more able people.

By behaving in this way, we come to despise or neglect an emotional and physical part of ourselves that contributes significantly to happiness.

On the other hand, it is obvious that anyone who intentionally harms us and demands certain things of us, does not deserve to be left by his side, nor to be given to him.

In other words, we should no longer “support” this kind of behavior, and say goodbye. Succeeding is what will make us stronger.

Once you have analyzed the problem, it is normal to feel embarrassed or hurt. This is why, we must be careful to remain constructive, and not to punish others, nor to punish oneself.

We have the right to be respected and appreciated

To say goodbye to abusers, start with small things so that you can communicate your needs without feeling guilty for giving up on caring for others. To do this, you don’t need to be aggressive, but rather be persistent and assertive.

In other words, speak mainly in the first person, and initiate the dialogue with phrases like “In certain situations, I feel little respected…”, rather than saying “You don’t value me”.

To work on this feeling, it is imperative to value yourself. It is only on this condition that others will be able to value us in their turn.

Thus, we will be able to reject abusive requests that do not bring us anything good, since we will have clear ideas on what makes us good, and what does not.

Always keep in mind that the right to feel respected is yours, and that you must work on it, because no one can rob you of your ability to know what you are worth, nor the recognition you deserve.