The Approach Of Death Makes Us Brave

Being near death makes us braver people. Because when our existence is in danger, fears disappear, doubts stop tormenting us and remorse for what we have not achieved and which seemed to us to be obvious begin. Yes, death terrifies us but instills in us a courage previously unknown.

We are aware that every minute counts and that we should start cultivating our mindfulness. However, we procrastinate as we prioritize certain projects, jobs, worries, among other things, which occupy our time, and our courage loses value. Until our life hangs by a thread and we realize we were wrong.

“When we feel death, we turn our gaze inward and we find nothing but the banality, because living beings, in comparison with the dead, are unbearably banal.”

-Miguel Delibes-

Take risks, never be craving

You wanted to say it but you were afraid that you would be rejected. You wanted to mention these words but the risk of losing prevented you from doing so. Shame, doubts, that “Actually, it’s not that important” installed in your mind a “What would have happened if…?” A collection of uncertainties that will accompany you forever, and from which you will find it hard to detach yourself. The important thing is not to multiply them.

We are courageous when close to death we begin to see such attitudes as mistakes. We blame and blame ourselves for not having the courage to say or do what we wanted when we felt it inside. If we still have time, we will try to find a solution for all of this. Otherwise, the reproaches will start to suffocate us.

Life teaches us, with experiences, to appreciate it. But the ways in which it does this are very subtle and the negative impact that lingers in our consciousness very brief. Remember that person so important that you weren’t able to value them until you lost them. It was then that you understood what was repeated to you so much but refused to listen: “Esteem people when you have them, not when you lose them.”

“It is necessary to take risks, to follow certain paths and to abandon others. No one is able to choose without fear. ”

-Paulo Coehlo-

Apologies have taken hold of you like a worry or negative thought that you cannot break free from. It’s like a shield behind which you protect yourself so as not to strive, to settle into the – exhausting and sometimes placid idea – that you are running out of time, to believe that you are not good enough, to don’t make the decision to start a relationship with whoever you want.

What lies deep within our being that we wish to experience, we hide behind a limiting attitude that turns what we want into something unattainable.

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What have you got to lose?

Perhaps the proximity of death makes us more courageous and results in us having nothing more to lose then. Does it matter if we answer “yes” or “no”? What does it matter if we are rejected? During these times, there is only one thing to do: try because if the answer is positive, we will gain something and if it is negative, we will not lose anything.

This is the attitude you should live with today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, forever. Because in your mind, there are many barriers that are the result of trauma, experiences that you wish you had forgotten and other circumstances that caused small gaps and which made you an insecure person. -same. But you have already used the “no”. Accept, assume, and don’t be afraid to fail. Because what you will lose, you did not have it before anyway, so take the risk!

Many of the obstacles you see are just the extraordinary product of your imagination. Barriers that create cowards as well as courageous ones. But, the courageous face it, while the cowards dramatize them with avoidance as their watchword.

The brave shake off every limiting belief and don’t allow anyone to instill fear in them that they don’t yet know. Because we often make excuses and we condition our future. We make assumptions, we anticipate it. By being well aware that it is unpredictable and that it has many surprises in store for us. So why do we become cowardly in front of him?

“When you have nothing, you have nothing to lose.”

-Titanic-

Expectations, pride, fear of ridicule, fear of failure… All this vanishes in the face of the presence of death. It is all the same the height that panic and dread, the horror of disappearing, of falling into oblivion are what provokes in us the greatest courage. This ending, which we all want as late as possible, is what makes us brave when we no longer have the opportunity to be.

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