Why Am I Not Comfortable With My Body?
Almost every human being at some point in their life has looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t like what I see.” Sometimes we try on clothes in a store and then we think “I’m not comfortable with my body”. Most of us want to change different parts of our body.
However, this loathing for one’s own body image goes far beyond the purely physical aspect. Many people believe that their worth and success is determined by their appearance. From this perspective, if we don’t meet the beauty standards set by society, we end up devaluing ourselves.
Why am I not comfortable with my body?
Taking all of the above into account, it’s interesting to wonder where this tendency to look down on yourself and feel uncomfortable about yourself comes from. It is even more interesting to know what can be done about it.
External causes
It is undeniable that culture and society have a very powerful influence on the fact that many people experience great dissatisfaction with their bodies. The aesthetic canon has changed over the years, dictating with very few permissive margins what is appropriate and desirable anytime, anywhere.
Today we have an unrealistic and unachievable ideal that values truly unnatural measures, for both men and women. Above all, these are unique and imposed characteristics that do not allow the logical diversity of the bodies that exist. F
Praising these credentials as the only acceptable ones generates serious psychological damage for those of us who do not fit into this mold. Just go to any clothing store to see the limited variety of sizes that exist.
So we grow up learning to reject our bodies, to see them as inadequate. We are mentally struggling not to meet the standards. Moreover, social pressure can also be devastating, because from the first years of school, the rejection of difference is present.
Internal causes
All of the above is imposed on us. However, there are other aspects directly related to personality and our attitude that cause us to feel uncomfortable with our body:
- Unfair comparisons. It is up to us to understand that the aesthetic canon is an unreal and inaccessible reference, and that we do not have to adapt to it. Comparisons inevitably lead to generating negative emotions against our own image, without understanding that beauty is in diversity.
- Rigid and dichotomous thinking. These beliefs assume that there are only two extremes, and that if we have a “negative” trait, we are automatically undesirable. Focusing our attention on that aspect of the physical that we don’t like, magnifying it and generalizing it, will make us feel bad about our body.
- Bad inferences. Since I am uncomfortable with my body, I guess I have no value as a person. I also assume that I am not allowed to wear certain clothes or perform certain activities, and that I will not be successful
What can I do if I am not comfortable with my body?
There are two main areas you need to focus on. First, work on all those beliefs and attitudes that you can change. And that make you feel unhappy with your image. Begin to perceive your positive qualities and traits. Learn to separate your personal worth from your image.
Second, work and persevere in loving and accepting your body as it is. Thank Him for being your vehicle on this earth plane, allowing you to breathe, laugh, run, or embrace your loved ones. Reconcile yourself with your mirror image and give yourself love and respect no matter what you look like.
It is only from this unconditional acceptance that you will be able to make the necessary changes to take care of your body and your image from a healthy posture. Exercise and eat healthy. Take care of your body, yes, but do it because you love it and not because you hate it.
Our thoughts Being different is perceived as positive or negative depending on the stage of life and phase of development we are in.
