With Meaningless Lies, We Lose Important People

No one likes lies, no matter how pious and small they are. They make us uncomfortable because they decide for us what to know or not to know, how to do, and from whom to learn something.

There is nothing more heartbreaking than lying and hypocrisy, as they make us feel small and vulnerable and cause us to distrust the world and forge a shell that breaks us from the world. interior.

This is why with insignificant lies, one loses important people, because the lies cast doubt on a thousand truths and hundreds of feelings that one believed to be sincere.

Deception fuels the bad habit we develop of dealing with and fragmenting the experiences and feelings of others, which makes us victims.

I like to be told the truth, then I’ll see if it hurts me or not

When a feeling as important as trust breaks, something inside us fails.

It is really sad that good relationships and great friendships are destroyed because of something that could be avoided.

And when we realize this or discover that we have been deceived, generally, we say to ourselves that as hard as the truth could have been to hear, we could certainly have endured it much better than the truth. betrayal of our trust.

If the lie is discovered, it always hurts much more than the truth. On the other hand, we must not forget that the truth will most likely emerge sooner or later, since it is well known that the lie has short legs.

In addition, one cannot demand sincerity from someone and then take offense at hearing the truths that are told with respect.

This is something very important, because often sincere people are accused of being “bad”, thus underestimating acts of good faith.

In other words, as always, one should try to look at deception and lies as well as sincerity from different points of view, because sometimes it is as hard to say what one thinks as it is not.

Sincerity is the basis of all trust

We all believe explicitly and implicitly that the quality of a person depends on his ability to be sincere and to show himself as he is in the eyes of the world as well as those around him.

It is then assumed in the same way that at the base of all tenderness is precisely total and absolute acceptance, without “but” , without conditions and without excuses.

In other words, at the start, we understand that we must not lie or hide anything from those we love or those who love us.

But, maybe the more tenderness there is, the more expectations there are; believing that we are going to disappoint the hopes that others may have placed in us sometimes leads us to make the mistake of believing that sometimes little lies can be justified.

However, as just said, things don’t work that way.

We must take the time to think about the reasons why we disappoint others more if we do not justify ourselves, or if we do it even if it could momentarily compromise the ideal image that others have of us.

We all make mistakes, and hiding things from others is one more mistake. It is our responsibility to consider all possibilities and to be tolerant with others in the same way we would like them to be with us.

From there, we will need to know whether or not we are able to forgive, as well as how to end a situation; we do not forget that even if forgiveness exists, it should not constitute for others a justification for hurting us .

Ultimately, it is the relationships of sincere tenderness that can overcome any truth, as well as the reality that accompanies them.

However, lies destroy and devastate trust, that trust that takes hundreds of experiences to build, but only needs a minute to break.

We must therefore be careful about this point, probably the important one, or at least one of the most important in a relationship and in positive exchanges.

Remember that lying, no matter how hard it is, is a good opportunity to grow and choose the people around you better.